What I Wish I Had Honored in My 20s (That Are Now Non-Negotiables in My 40s)
A Letter From the Future You ✨
Dear Younger Me—
And to every woman navigating your 20s, 30s, or 40s who feels the quiet tug that there’s more to life than chasing the next glass of wine, the next relationship, the next version of yourself you think you have to be…
Let me share with you, from a place of lived experience, love, and deep respect—
These are the 10 practices I wish I had honored in my 20s…
And now, in my 40s, they are non-negotiables.
These are the habits that keep me radiant, emotionally clear, and connected to my truth.
1. Listening to Your Intuition
Your intuition isn’t fluff. It’s your body’s built-in GPS for energetic alignment and self-protection.
In my 20s, I often silenced that inner voice to keep the peace, win love, or avoid rocking the boat. But intuition is a muscle—ignore it too long and it weakens. Honor it early, and it becomes your most trusted guide.
Start now: Learn to listen to your gut feelings, the tightness in your chest, the urge to rest or walk away. It’s never just in your head.
Use the 21-Day Breaking Free Challenge to start reconnecting with your inner voice and releasing the clutter that’s been blocking it.
2. Engaging with Mentors
Healing doesn’t happen in isolation.
I wish I had known earlier that seeking mentorship—through coaches, therapists, recovery programs, or teachers—is a sign of strength, not weakness.
A mentor helps you collapse timelines by showing you what’s possible and holding space for your expansion.
Explore the Empowered Recovery Course if you’re ready to be guided through the deep interpersonal work that clears old sabotage patterns.
3. Facing My Traumas and Fears
Here’s the thing: the unhealed parts of you will make decisions on your behalf until you face them.
Unprocessed trauma isn’t just emotional—it shows up physically, in hormone imbalances, tension, inflammation, and even autoimmunity.
The sooner you sit with your shadows, the sooner you reclaim your power.
If you’re ready to gently begin this process, start with the 28-Day Reset. It gives your nervous system the structure, nourishment, and rhythm to prepare for deeper healing.
4. Hitting My Macros (Especially Protein)
It’s not just about aesthetics—it’s about longevity.
In my 20s, I skipped meals or overdid sugar and carbs. I didn’t understand that muscle is medicine, especially as we age.
Prioritizing protein supports hormone balance, metabolism, and sustained energy. In our 40s, it’s harder to build muscle—but easier to build fatigue.
The 5-Day Cleanse or 28-Day Reset helps reset your relationship with food while focusing on anti-inflammatory, protein-rich nourishment that supports real energy.
5. Healing My Gut
Your gut is your second brain—and arguably your first immune system.
I wish I had known that things like chronic bloating, brain fog, mood swings, or skin issues were not normal.
An unhealthy gut affects how you feel, think, and even how you manifest. The sooner you restore gut balance, the faster your body and mind align with your highest expression.
Start with the 28-Day Reset to support gentle detox, improve digestion, and restore your gut-brain connection.
What if the habits that felt normal in your 20s are the very ones holding you back in your 40s?
→ Read why I quit drinking at 44—and never looked back.
6. Letting Go of What Doesn’t Serve Me
I clung to people, habits, and environments far too long because they felt familiar—even when they drained me.
What I know now: when you hold onto what no longer serves you, you block what wants to come in.
Letting go creates energetic space for alignment, love, and expansion.
The Empowered Recovery Course helps you release emotional attachments and old belief patterns, while staying rooted in your worth.
7. Lifting Weights
Forget the fear of “bulking up.” Strength training is essential for women.
It helps preserve bone density, boost metabolism, regulate hormones, and reduce anxiety.
Weightlifting taught me how to hold myself—physically, emotionally, spiritually.
Not sure where to start? Inside the 28-Day Reset, I share light-weight sculpting routines perfect for all levels.
8. Shadow Work
Every projection, judgment, or resentment was a reflection of something I hadn’t healed within.
Shadow work isn’t about shame—it’s about understanding. It’s about seeing your patterns and choosing differently.
Once you integrate your shadows, you no longer need to self-sabotage or shrink.
The 21-Day Breaking Free Challenge is a gentle initiation into this process. Each day builds your awareness, resilience, and personal power.
9. Consistency Over Hustle
I had no shortage of passion or ideas in my 20s—but I lacked consistency.
I thought I had to hustle for success. But aligned consistency, not chaos, creates transformation.
Discipline isn’t punishment—it’s devotion to the woman you’re becoming.
My Empowered Recovery Course helps you lay down the roots of new, sustainable patterns that reflect your highest self.
10. Using Alcohol to Numb Wasn’t Harmless
In my 20s, alcohol was my social glue, my “reward,” my escape.
But what I didn’t realize was that alcohol was vibrating at the same frequency as my wounds—fear, insecurity, pride—and keeping me stuck there.
Now I know that true connection, joy, and confidence never come from a bottle.
If you’re sober curious or know alcohol is blocking your growth, take the What’s My Aligned Sobriety Path Quiz to discover your personalized starting point.
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✨ Final Thoughts
These aren’t just wellness trends or surface-level tips.
They’re the spiritual, emotional, and physical foundations of an aligned, empowered, beautiful life.
Whether you’re 24 or 44, now is the perfect time to return to yourself.
🌿 Start with the 28-Day Reset to ground and nourish your body
💫 Join the 21-Day Breaking Free Challenge to shift your mindset and clear sabotage
🔥 Dive into the Empowered Recovery Course to fully transform your inner world—and your outer reality
Your future self is already so proud of you.
She’s waiting—and cheering—for your first step.
Let’s begin.
